Love: He and She

Relationships are tedious, it requires a lot of hard work, a little bit of mind games to add that extra spice, a whole lot of compromise to add that extra amount of sweetness, and for a hint of salt and pepper well you bruise  his ego, later serenade him with apologies and your loving, at times he will bruise your ego, well he will be he, will act  indifferent, but when you give him a taste of his own medicine, he will be a rabbit following you for the carrot you some how hold in your hands.

 Relationship is like drinking Cosmopolitan, bitter- sweet; it is like eating entrée and dessert at the same time. But for some relationship can be like sharing strawberry ice cream, through out, no complains and no demands, how can that be possible? He and She can never be the same, we are humans, each has their own flaws, no one is perfect, and at times too much sweetness can be a bit too hard to digest.

She: How do I look?

He: (Thinking: “If I thought you were looking nice, I would have said it with out you asking”) Beautiful!

She: You never compliment me; I always have to make sure you notice

He: (Thinking again: “You never give me the chance to compliment you, you always fish for it”) I am always smitten by how beautiful you look! (Lie)

She :( Happy and giddy) Thank you, baby

Men and women are god’s most complex creations, one is the other’s enemy in many ways, and still one can’t do with out the other, may be that’s why when two negative 1s are added the result is a positive 2 and may be this is one of the reasons why He wants She, or vice versa, as close as possible. So what is it about the enemy that makes us want to explore them, get to know them, fall for them, be in a relationship with them? Is it in the way they look or how they make us feel? Is it in their voice or the flirtatious glances they throw at us, what is it that the need to be with the enemy is ever increasing?

Casanova we all know was an infamous seducer, he would even cross an ocean if it could get his choice of victim to notice him, but once she let her guard down and let him in, he would simply disappear, in search of another victim, in search of another challenge.

No one likes to eat strawberry ice cream over and over again; the need for change arises automatically. At times She is cold, and He is confused as to why she is not giving him attention, at times He uses the demonic power of words and She smiles, at times She throws tantrums and He is weak, at times He surprises her with small things and She is the happiest ever, at times She brings out a harem of different women in her and he is shocked yet intrigued, at times He yells and She cries!

He: Why can’t you ever give proper direction, I had to drive around for half an hour

She: You know I am bad with giving direction, sorry!

He: No problem, that’s expected of you, you have no sense of direction. You want me to be on time, and when I get lost because of your “no sense in direction” you make that pouty face

She: I am not making that pouty face, I never do, why you are getting so irritated, you could have just used the GPS in your car

He: Yes, I could have but I am stupid to believe my girlfriend is smart enough to give proper directions

She: (Sniffling), you are being mean now!

He: oh! C’mon stop crying, you always try to win an argument by shedding tears, just so that you know I am immune to it these days

She: Crying (as if he just broke her heart), not saying a word and still crying

After a few minutes

He: Baby, I am a jerk, it’s my fault, I am sorry (Thinking: “She always gets away with it, she always cries”)

Togetherness is blissful; the feeling of having someone to hold your fall, to share your happiness and be a part of your sorrow is just beautiful. Togetherness at times is hurtful, no one is perfect, we yell, we fight, we walk away, but in the end we love. The reason He and She, no matter how much one manages to get under one’s skin, or point each other’s flaws, love  because She knows He  perfects her imperfections, and He knows She completes him. 

Togetherness simply implies to when two become one. But that is not always possible, He and She’s individuality clash, and both need to become two from one, at least for a while, to keep love growing.

She: Can I come?

He: No

She: Why not?

He: It’s “boys’ night out”

She: You always crash my “girls’ night out”

He: That’s because you expect me to be there, you want me there and don’t deny it

She: So you don’t want me to hang out with your friends? I embarrass you!

He: Here we go again, you know what, I don’t want to spoil my mood, I am leaving, you call your girlfriends, go out, and have fun

She: I will, you don’t have to tell me!

Not everyone can sing duet in harmony neither can everyone dance duet smoothly, it takes a lot of practice, sometimes days, sometimes even years, and yet at times there are certain rough moments. Everyone cannot sing duet forever, or waltz with a lover, forever,  being lovers doesn’t mean one’s umbilical chord is tied to the other’s, at times both He and She need to dance and sing solo, till they are pulled back to each other by an unseen chord.

He: I need space!

She: Space? Do I ever ask for it?

He: No and that’s because I give it to you, I don’t nag you, or cling to you and times I let you be

She: Fine, you want space right? Alright lets end this relationship that’s making you so claustrophobic, then you can take as much space as you want to

He: Why do you misunderstand me always?

She: Because that’s what you want and you can’t say it directly

He: You are so weird, space doesn’t mean I want to end this relationship, I am in love with you, it’s just that I need some me time

She: Whatever!

He: Think as you please, I don’t care!

To be able to love other, one needs to love oneself first, love is never complete with out self love. Love a four letter word, with such a strong meaning, when you fall in love, you fall you can’t help it, but when you try to get out of it, you can’t, till your heart is ready to love again, so why put yourself through so much pain? When you love yourself more than other, it won’t hurt as much. When you are secured about yourself and are confident, your partner will be drawn towards you automatically. So, for a relationship to blossom, one should be able love love one self first.

Love is not a feeling you can control, it is the force which rules your soul. You cannot help who you fall for, love just happens. He and She never planned to fall for each other, they never planned to be together for so long, they didn’t know with all the fights and tantrums, love would still be lurking somewhere around the corner.  The look He sees in She’s eyes when he holds her hands, the security She feels when He hugs her, when He yells at her, He has that uncomfortable feeling in his stomach, and that feeling doesn’t seem to go away until She forgives him for being harsh. Love is love, Love is She and Love is He.

He: Baby

She: (Silent with her back towards him)

He: I know I am a jerk at times; you should hate me when I mistreat you. But you should know you are the only girl who makes my heart skip a beat.

She:  (Turns to him, smiles) that’s why I am still here

He: I love you

She: I know and I love you too!